I think there’s a lot for teen mothers to learn (of course there are), but I think because I had my first child at 18, I have a few things to say.
First of all, you have to want to be a good mom when you have a kid at such a young age (I know, easier said than done), but most teens are typically more into themselves than anyone or anything else – shocking I know, but it’s true. Look at your friends, what are they into – Boys? School? Partying? New clothes? New makeup? New anything? Guess, what… that’s over.
Time to Grow Up
When a mother has a child in her later years they typically have more money to take care of that child. They may not plan it (heck the majority of the time they don’t), but they have the money to afford it (typically). However as a teenager, you’re NEVER prepared to take care of a child – nope, not ever. It’ll spin your head around and will put you in a completely different place than you ever expected.
Expect to lose the following things:
- Your friends
- Your boyfriend
- New Anything – Clothes, Makeup, Cars, etc.
Expect to start thinking of the following things:
- Your child
All of the above should be paid for by you – not your parents
Of course this is just a summary, but what I really want you to think about is that life is going to change for you. It’s time to stop thinking about you and start thinking about the new life growing inside of you. Stop drinking, stop doing drugs, stop smoking – just stop doing anything harmful to your body. You are raising a child and it’s time to grow up.
Here’s What’s Going to Happen in the Future if You Plan to Keep Your Child…
You’ll probably lose your boyfriend – they rarely stick around. Your parents will be pissed, but they’ll hopefully get over it – for the most part, they’re going to be you and your child’s only lifeline. You’re going to lose your friends – they want to party and are probably planning on going away to college, and you don’t fit into those plans anymore.
But Here’s Where You Need to be Strong
You need to realize that it is you that is going to be the center of the world to this baby. He or she is going to depend completely on you. Your baby needs you to grow up fast and be a mom. You need to be responsible and teach that baby everything that you always wanted to learn. Be the best mom you can be – go to school, get your education and fight your way to the top.
I’m speaking from experience here, and the best advice I can give you is to love your baby the best you can and get the best education you can so that you can support you and your child.